Introducing Myself And The Story Of This Blog

Hello, my name is Richard Wolf.

Now that the blog has got on track, I believe it is time for me to introduce myself!

I’ll start with my own story, how I found the rebooting community and then ramble a bit about the aim of this website.

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Why Blaming And Hating Yourself Are The Two Worst Things For Your Reboot

We rarely take an empathetic attitude towards ourselves not matter what the issue is.

It’s human nature to demand more of ourselves than anyone else would have the right to demand.

But that often leads to a lot of self-hatred and putting ourselves down when relapses happen, which is downright harmful.

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The Art Of Using K9 Effectively

There is much criticism on internet blockers in the community. It is true that they are no Fort Knox and will not keep a determined soul away from porn, at least not for long.

But I would defend the blockers. They are good at what they are designed to do, which isn’t to be impassable defenses. Regardless, I think they have a lot of value.

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Why Having A Vision Makes Your Recovery Easier

We all need a compelling reason for why we do what we do. The key point being compelling.

It has to make us want to do even the most uncomfortable actions.

And when you are rebooting, every withdrawal urge your resist is an uncomfortable action.

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Frequently Asked Questions: Part One

In this post I will discuss some of the most frequently asked questions in the community.

It is important to do this, because there are common mistakes being done in rebooting and it is harming those trying to recover.

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Know Your Limits To Prevent Self-Sabotage

Know your limits.

Pushing too far and too long out of your comfort zone, your brain will freak out.

The result is self-sabotage, which will end you up worse than when you started.

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The Successful Rebooter Formula Part Two: Willpower Is A Losers Tool

Reliance on willpower is the most detrimental and widespread problem currently in the rebooting community.

It has caused more harm and relapses than any other approach put together.

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